Rephrased question: My ex and I both agreed to pay her college tuition with a SUNY Cap. My daughter lives with my ex and is taking out student loans to pay her tuition against my wishes since my ex and I agreed to pay it. Her tuition at the public college she attends is much lower than the SUNY cap. I believe my ex has convinced her to do this to get out of paying tuition. I also pay child support which should be used for her living expenses, so there is no need for her to tale out loans Can she do this? I have repeatedly asked for the tuition bill but have not received it? Are my ex and I obligated to pay tuition if my daughter takes out loans? How can I argue that my ex should be paying a portion of tuition as per our agreement rather than putting this debt on my daughter?